Usually when we hear or read something new, we just compare it to our own ideas. If it is the same, we accept it and say that it is correct. If it is not, we say it is incorrect. In either case, we learn nothing.
Random…The apology…So I’ve had this happen a few times now where a guy I used to date, who turned out to be an ass came back later (sometimes months, sometimes years) and apologize for how they treated me when they had me. Each time it catches me totally off guard. The first time it happened (like a decade ago) a guy I started dating when I was modeling turned out to be all jacked up and still in love with his ex. I left him alone, then years later we were doing a show together and he pulls me to the side at an after party and gave me one of the most sincere and heartfelt apologies I think I’ve ever gotten ever. It was totally unexpected b/c I had long gotten over the relationship and was totally cool working with him. I would have gone on with life just fine never hearing a word about our relationship stint, but it was really sweet to hear the apology and it wasn’t followed up with a plea to give it another try. Simply a sincere apology and I appreciated that he realized that he hurt me and it bothered him enough that he felt the need to address it. Even after it was clear everything was good between us.
I got two more of those this week…not as genuine as the first, but still unexpected. If only guys could get it together before I quit them though. Or maybe i’m just too quick to quit people…nah nah its not me, its them. lol
Accepting the challenge from the lovely Tina B. #boldlipsforsicklecell donation made
I think I posted this already. .. but imma just let this sit and marinate once more
Mafikizolo’s Nhlanhla Nciza for FORBES WOMAN AFRICA August-September 2014
Photos Credit: Neo Ntsoma
My kids started school yesterday. The boy is a sixth grader O_O and my baby girl started Kindergarten. I can’t believe how fast they are growing up. I have loads of anxiety about this school year, but i’m trying to hide it behind forced optimism and a smile. lol